3 Reasons why Finding your Community is Key to a Happy & Healthy Life

Hi-ya, Live Your FYEs Lifers!

I've been laying low on the blogging end because I've been pouring so much heart and content into the pod (which if you haven't listened to yet, be sure to subscribe to Live Your F*ck Yes Life on Itunes or your favorite podcast app!) but I wanted to pop into your corner of the universe to share something that's been on my heart // and share some more personal updates that a lot of you have been asking questions about! 

(Which for the record, I love hearing from you guys! So never hesitate to reach out either on Instagram @amandakatherineloy or you can email me here!

I just got back from an incredible leadership retreat in Florida with 6 other coaches on my health & fitness coaching team and it was SO freaking good for the soul. We sweat together, we ate all the tacos and drank all the kombucha-ritas (like a margarita with a kombucha twist!), laughed our asses off, dug deep into our visions for our lives and businesses and had the most epic quality time 4 day sleepover extravaganza.

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And the craziest thing about it all?

I met all of these women on the INTERNET. Yup #blindfrienddating at its finest.

I've been going on trips and a part of this community ever since I decided to take the leap and become a coach myself in November 2015 and every time I go to a live event with these women, I'm so in awe at how they instantly become like FAMILY.

Truth? I always had a crazy hard time making female friendships growing up. I was bullied a lot when I was younger because I was the "chubby kid" and the girls I thought were my friends were AWFUL to me all through school. I made friends here and there (a few of which have stuck around for the long haul) but even through college, most of the female friendships I made ended up being insanely toxic. 

Can you relate?

I talk to so many women who ask me how I've found such strong female friendships and, outside of the few gems that I made in my schooling years, my answer always is COACHING. 

I started health coaching because I knew something in my life needed to change.

My health was in the shitter (I was knee deep in my orthorexia and binge eating days) and I was working 7 part time jobs just to get by and I just couldn't freaking do it anymore. So I grabbed onto one last ditch effort that I was HELLA skeptical of, but I figured that I would hopefully turn my health around at the very least. 

So I dove in. I expected the financial return. I expected to transform my health.

But I never expected the COMMUNITY that I would immediately be welcomed into with open arms -- a community of women that instantly felt like long lost soul sisters.

Women who are like me, but different.

Who teach me so much every single day.

Who accept me for who I am in every aspect.

And who have been there for me ten fold this year while I've been navigating one of the toughest and most overwhelming seasons of my life.

We come from all walks of life (teachers, actors, social workers, nurses, business women, dog mamas, etc) brought together by our dedication to self care via health & fitness and our desire to help others and make an impact in this world. 

And when you get a group of people together who are all showing up for a common goal, and who all bring SO many beautiful and different things to the table, it's pure MAGIC.

If you're feeling lost, chances are it's because you haven't found or created your community yet. One where you feel like you truly belong. And if there's anything I can recommend, FIND YOUR SUPPORT SQUAD. It'll transform your life in ways you never imagined.

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SO WHY IS HAVING A COMMUNITY SO IMPORTANT?

  1. ACCOUNTABILITY -- Have you ever tried going after a goal but lost motivation and never ended up accomplishing it? We live in a society that has taught us to become independent women, and while I'm ALL about throwin' my hands up at them independent women (*cough name that musical reference*) and consider myself quite independent, I spent SO much of my time trying to figure everything out on my own and I felt like I was endlessly hitting my head up against a wall. With my team, we share our goals with one another and hold each other accountable. There's no way I would be where I am today if it weren't for them endlessly empowering me to show up for my dreams. 
  2. SUPPORT -- This one is SO huge. I'm hella blessed to have an incredible support system. Between my husband, my parents and my best friends, I consider myself a pretty lucky girl. But there's something SO magical about going through the shit of it and having women who I've never actually met in person reach out with supportive words, care packages, the works. It's SO incredible and something I am endlessly grateful for every single day. 
  3. IT KEEPS YOU HEALTHY -- Literally. Having a community of people you're plugged into and surrounded by on the daily is SO beneficial to your health. My particular group ups the anti up 'cause we literally are all working on our health & fitness together but any community is HUGE from a mental health perspective. When we are a part of something bigger than ourselves, studies have shown that anxiety, depression and risk of death by heart attacks are significantly reduced. If that's not powerful, I don't know what is. 

And there you have it -- moral of the story? Community is freaking NECESSARY for the soul. Like chicken soup (did ya read those growing up too? haha)

And if you're a goofy go-getter who loves health & fitness, Harry Potter, dogs and laughing so hard you pee a little, then WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?!? The Live Your FYES Life community is home, lady love and we'd LOVE to have you join us. Let's chat!!! 


LIFE UPDATES // 

HEALTH & FITNESS

I completed round 1 of 80 Day Obsession in April and loved it so freaking much that I decided to do it again. I love Beachbody programs so much because they always teach me something new about myself and what I'm capable of.

I've tried SO many fitness programs in the past (Tone It Up, BBG, etc) and I got SO bored and found my results never stuck -- whereas Beachbody programs always leave me feeling re-energized and engaged. And holy hell are these some of the best results of my entire life -- not just physically (because I feel stronger than I ever have), but mentally.

These workouts? They were my therapy. I found out 3 weeks into the program that I was BRCA 1 positive and these workouts got me through the tough days were all I wanted to do was curl up in a ball and cry. I'm SO grateful to this program for literally being my light at the end of the tunnel.

And I'm SO proud of myself and all of my clients who rocked the program alongside of me for COMPLETING THE PROGRAM. If you would have told me a year ago I would have showed up every single day, 6 days a week for 80 days, I would have said you were crazy. But I freaking did it. Was it "perfect"? Well, considering I don't believe in that word, I guess my answer would be NO. But I showed up every single day, rocked the timed nutrition (which my body LOVED) and have never felt more like an athlete in my life. Which coming from a gal who used to be picked last for gym every damn time as a kid, is something that brings tears to my eyes just thinking about.

The lesson? You are capable of ANYTHING you set your mind to. Really and truly.

And if you love structure and are looking to get hella amazing results and feel like a badass athlete, let's chat about you rocking this program alongside our Live Your F*ck Yes Life Wellness Squad!

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MY HORMONE LEVELS

It's been a month and a half since going off the birth control pill and transitioning to the copper IUD and so far, my feelings have more or less stayed that I'm happy with my decision.

My menstrual cycle hasn't come back like it had before, but I am having some kind of menstruation happening -- it's just very different than anything I've experienced before. (Much lighter and longer lasting and a different consistency -- which makes sense as my body is actually going through the process of ovulation now.) Other than that, not much else has shifted other than the shifts in energy throughout the month // let's just say, I get the whole concept of PMS-ing now haha. 

The only downside is that when I went to my one month follow up appointment with my doctor,  I found out that my IUD appears to have moved. Because it's a copper IUD, if it moves any more, I'm going to have to have it re-inserted (which for all of you who have had an IUD inserted you know is NOT a fun process), so that's unfortunate but what's going on!

 

And there you have it! I've got some things to share in the next coming weeks once I've worked through it all and it's official so stay tuned, but that's what the last month of my life has looked like!!

 

What's been going on in YOUR world, lady love?

I wanna hear! Let me know in the comments below.

 

Xo Amanda