Let's face it.
We aren't born to be 100% confident, energetic, and instant masters at what we do.
We know we have to take care of our physical bodies by eating right, working out, getting sleep, etc etc but we don't really talk about how we need to take care of our mental and emotional selves.
The more you learn about yourself, the more you'll be able to understand your quirks, strengths, and capacity for dealing with life, and it's so important to work on our mindset every single day.
Have you ever felt like you're stuck, spinning your wheels, in a life rut?
It's probably because you haven't been challenging yourself on the inside. If you don't put work into your emotional and spiritual growth, you're going to stay stuck.
Whenever you're going through change in life, whether that's losing weight, starting a new job or relationship, or moving to a new city, it's important to grow and evolve on the INSIDE. If we don't match our inner growth with our external growth, we're never going to feel satisfied with our accomplishments or like we're "good enough."
You can only go as far as you grow. Your success in life will always be limited by your confidence, skills, and level of self-awareness.
Personal development is heavily encouraged in the Beachbody world, but I think it's important for everyone, regardless of what you want out of life!
Putting myself on a mental/emotional "diet" of personal development books and podcasts over the past year has helped me deal with my perfectionism, anxiety, and low self esteem. I'm still a work in progress but I've learned so much, and helping other women get to know themselves is now my purpose in life.
Today I'm sharing the five books I started out with that had the greatest impact on my life!
Sidenote: Just because these are my personal recommendations doesn’t mean they’re the right books for you. I’m a 25 year old female who’s building her own business, working on her acting career, chasing her dreams, and working to overcome self doubt, anxiety and perfectionism. If you’re similar to me and, chances are you’ll benefit from these books too!
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Yup, the author of Eat Pray Love is at it again. And I think this is her piece de resistance, especially if you’re an artist or creative entrepreneur. In this book, she dives right into how to release your fear so that you can show up for yourself in your creative life.
What I learned from Big Magic:
That fear is a NORMAL part of the creative process. And that you can either let the fear stagnate you for moving forward OR you can choose to move forward in spite of the fear. To use it to propel you towards the artistic and creative path you crave.
“ Do whatever bring you to life, then. Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart. The rest of it will take care of itself.”
“You can measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes or failures.”
“What would you do if you knew that you could not fail?”
“Don’t let go of your courage the moment things stop being easy or rewarding. Because that moment? That’s the moment when interesting begins.”
You are a Badass by Jen Sincero
The title of this book says it all. If you’re looking for a book that will empower you with confidence and ultimate badassery, this book is for you.
What I learned from You Are A Badass:
To not take yourself so goddamn seriously and that you CAN do whatever you put your mind to. Her tough love, no BS approach really hit home with me and made me realize that so often, I trick myself out of doing these really huge and exciting things because I let that inner mean girl (or as I like to call her, my inner shit talker) tell me I’m not good enough. Eff that. You are. End of story.
“It’s just as easy to believe we’re awesome as it is to believe we’re giant sucking things”
“There will never be anyone exactly like you. You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world, and even though everybody has special gifts and talents, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do. You have a way of being in the world and a perspective that’s unique to you. You are kind of a big deal.”
“What if you had the audacity to leave your excuses and your shame about wanting to be huge and fabulous behind and really went for it full-on anyway? What if you decided to do the most outrageous, most exciting thing you ever dared fantasize about, regardless of what anyone, including your terrified self, thought? THAT would be living.”
The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
Can you tell I favor female personal development authors? Sometimes you have to throw some masculine energy into the mix, and The Slight Edge is a MUST-READ for anyone.
This book is about how we can turn simple daily actions and behaviors into long-term success. It's all about starting where you are, with what you already know, and slowly but surely making baby steps towards your big shiny goals. In a world that tells us to expect instant results, it can be really discouraging and frustrating to work towards a big dream or goal that will take patience and time, and it’s easy to get derailed from our vision. I love this book because it reassures us that it’s not about big massive leaps...it’s about the little things we can do to keep us moving forward.
What I learned from The Slight Edge
The Slight Edge taught me how to shift my own definition of “success” and gave me a lot of confidence.
“You already know how to do everything it would take to make you an outrageous success. All you have to do is keep doing the things that have gotten you this far.”
“Successful people fail their way to the top.”
“Success is a process, not a destination. It’s something you experience gradually, over time.”
“Happiness isn’t some big thing you pursue, not something you chase after. It’s something you do.”
“Don’t try to figure it all out. If you want twice the success, double your rate of failure. You start with a plan, then go through the process of continuous learning through both study and doing, adjusting all the time like a rocket ship on the way to the moon, of track 97 percent of the time.”
The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte
The Desire Map is about leaning back and letting your values and core desired feelings take the lead. It’s about a creative, soulful approach to success and goal setting.
Whenever you start freaking yourself out or feeling overwhelmed and intimidated by your own plans and goals,the Desire Map is like a sigh of relief that will remind you you’re already good enough, and exactly where you need to be.
This book is half inspiration, and half workbook that will guide you to discover your own Core Desired Feelings, and then help you create a plan to manifest those feelings in all areas of life.
What I learned from The Desire Map:
That getting clear on how we want to FEEL in our life is essential for making decisions in our lives.
“Wanting more for your future is not a betrayal of your present or past.”
“Awareness is realizing that our life could always be better. Growth is doing what it takes to make it better.”
“When you respect the darkness within yourself without any guilt trips, you’re becoming truly free.”
“Goals can perpetuate overplanning, and overplanning kills magic and possibilities.”
“You can ease up on yourself without shrinking your dreams.”
Mastering your Mean Girl by Melissa Ambrosini
Mastering your Mean Girl is a no BS kick in the pants read that will help you make a plan for creating your own version of a kick-ass life — one that’s “wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy, and bursting with love” and where your mean girl won’t dictate your life anymore. This is a must read if you’re ready to let go of your Mean Girl, take action and start living the life of your dreams.
What I learned from Mastering Your Mean Girl:
How simple shifts in perspective can be so transformative on your mental health.
“In order for you to be the best, happiest, shiniest version of yourself, you need to fill yourself up first so that you are overflowing and bursting with love.”
“There are no mistakes, just opportunities for evolution. Choose to see every ‘mistake’ or ‘failure’ as an opportunity for growth.”
“I move because I love the way it makes me feel. Not because I hate my body and want to fix and change it.”
A few tips on using personal development
If you’re anything like me, you’ll be tempted to binge on personal development, but it’s important not to let your “all or nothing” mindset take over.
A good goal that will keep you moving forward at a steady pace is to read one PD book a month
That will give you motivation to actually finish reading it, and you’ll also have enough time to absorb and process what you’re reading (We actually do this every single month in our free Live On Purpose Community so if you haven’t joined this badass high vibing tribe, what’re you waiting for? Hop on in and soak up the looove!)
Sometimes I check PD books out of the library, but I prefer to buy them because I treat them like a workbook. You want to be able to highlight, underline, scribble notes and breakthroughs in the margins, and constantly be asking yourself "how can I apply this?".
I also love going back and re-reading my favorite books, because you’ll get something new out of them as your life evolves and changes. It’s fun to go back and see my previous notes and take-aways, and how I’ve been able to implement them into my life (or not!)
I encourage you -- nay, I DARE you to try one.
One of these books is probably standing out to you right now so just listen to your heart and pick it up