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28 Lessons from 28 years of life

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It’s pretty incredible to look back to see how far you’ve come.

This is my 2nd time doing this since I started the blog (check out last years roundup here) and every year I’m blown away by all the things I’ve taken away.

I spent so many years of my life on automatic pilot, going through the motions and not taking stock in my life. What I was learning, how I was growing. And doing this every year has been such an amazing way to look back and do just that — plus you guys know I LOVE sharing my shiz with you.

So here they are — the mess, the growth, the shifts. I hope they serve as a gorgeous reminder for your own life.


28 lessons from 28 years of life:

  1. Success isn’t about the shiny pennies. It’s about getting clear on what’s truly important to you and going after that feeling every day.

  2. Boundaries are beautiful. When you set them, you are finally able to say no to things you don’t want so you can say yes to the things you do.

  3. The thing that feels like the hardest thing on the planet to do/decide/shift? It’s not. It might suck, and be painful but you’ll get through it.

  4. Anxiety is your intuition giving you clues. This was a huge lesson this year (and therapy) has taught me and it’s allowed me to truly learn how to use it as my superpower instead of feeling overwhelmed by it. 

  5. Run towards the people and experiences that fill your cup.

  6. Trust the gut tugs. This was one of the lessons I didn’t expect to learn and one that has changed so much about the way I navigate life. 

  7. A woman’s body is SO complex and something to be celebrated — periods and all. (Read more about my switch from birth control pills to the copper IUD this year

  8. Vulnerability is strength. Embrace the mess and choose to grow from it.

  9. 20 minute workouts can be just as empowering and challenging as an hour boot camp class. Choosing my time wisely in this way has been such a huge part of my journey this year and my old limiting beliefs that left me in the gym for hours always feeling not enough has been BLASTED on a whole new level with the workout program I’m currently rocking. 

  10. Put yourself first and foremost. Over EVERYTHING. Because you cannot give to anyone or anything if your tank isn’t full first.

  11. That I am a manifesting generator in human design and a 7 on the enneagram (which gave me SOOO much understanding about myself and why I operate the way I do — check out episode 5 of the podcast for more info!)

  12. My boobs do not define me as a woman or a sexual being. Period.

  13. Belief is the root of every possibility we allow into our lives. 

  14. Money doesn’t have to be stressful. We don’t HAVE to live paycheck to paycheck and constantly perpetuate the “I’m broke” cycle and it STARTS with the words we say and the energy we put into the universe. 

  15. Allll about my innate privilege and how I can show up in the self development space AND be an advocate for social change.

  16. Expectations can’t get met if you don’t express them. Ask for what you want. Express what you need. 

  17. Surround yourself with people who have different perspectives and lives than yours. It is the most beautiful way to grow and learn. Don’t know where to start? Follow people online and diversify your feed.

  18. Sharing your story, even when you’re going through the damn thing, can be the most rewarding thing you ever do.

  19. If you don’t like it, change it. You have the power to shift your thoughts/decisions/the way you show up in the world. So do the damn thing and make the shift. Even if it’s hard. 

  20. Change isn’t such a bad thing. I used to be terrified of change but this year has taught me so much about the beauty of leaning into the shifts. Change may be uncomfortable but that discomfort? It’s where all the growth and magic takes place, if you let it.

  21. My heart craves adventure. I need it. I thrive off of it. And the more adventure I can have in my life, the more my soul feels filled the fuck up. So move towards what lights you up. 

  22. Just because something works for one person doesn’t mean it’s going to work for you. You already have the answers inside of you. Surround yourself with people who help you get clear on what you really want instead of those who prescribe what they do to you. 

  23. Starting your day off with gratitude will change the game. I’ve been doing this for the past 6 months and it truly puts my mindset in the best spot. 

  24. Peoples beliefs don’t pay the bills. Do what sets your soul on fire and do so apologetically. Not everyone will get it. But don’t let other peoples thoughts stop you from showing up for what YOU want on YOUR terms.

  25. Community is EVERYTHING. Women are hardwired for community and it MF SUCKS when we don’t feel like we have people in our lives who truly get us. Whether you foster and create your own soul sisterhood like I did or join one (you can sit with us!), seek out a group of women that will set your soul on fire and empower you to be better every single day.

  26. Be an advocate for your health. One of my biggest takeaways from my BRCA journey this year has been standing up for what I want with my doctors. Ask for what you want. Trust your intuition. And don’t just follow doctors orders because they tell you it’s what’s you have to do. Get second, third and fourth opinions. Do your research. Talk to people who’ve been in your shoes. And stand up for your health, it’s all you’ve got.

  27. “What do you need today love?” — a beautiful tool my dear friend Jen Wille shared on episode 21 of the podcast and one that has truly helped me get super acquainted with my innate desires.

  28. The key to living your fuck yes life? Getting rid of the “shoulds” and getting clear on what lights you up and moving ALLLLL THE WAY in that direction. Okay? Ok. 


Which ones are you committed to working on this year?

Xo Amanda

3 Reasons why Finding your Community is Key to a Happy & Healthy Life

Hi-ya, Live Your FYEs Lifers!

I've been laying low on the blogging end because I've been pouring so much heart and content into the pod (which if you haven't listened to yet, be sure to subscribe to Live Your F*ck Yes Life on Itunes or your favorite podcast app!) but I wanted to pop into your corner of the universe to share something that's been on my heart // and share some more personal updates that a lot of you have been asking questions about! 

(Which for the record, I love hearing from you guys! So never hesitate to reach out either on Instagram @amandakatherineloy or you can email me here!

I just got back from an incredible leadership retreat in Florida with 6 other coaches on my health & fitness coaching team and it was SO freaking good for the soul. We sweat together, we ate all the tacos and drank all the kombucha-ritas (like a margarita with a kombucha twist!), laughed our asses off, dug deep into our visions for our lives and businesses and had the most epic quality time 4 day sleepover extravaganza.

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And the craziest thing about it all?

I met all of these women on the INTERNET. Yup #blindfrienddating at its finest.

I've been going on trips and a part of this community ever since I decided to take the leap and become a coach myself in November 2015 and every time I go to a live event with these women, I'm so in awe at how they instantly become like FAMILY.

Truth? I always had a crazy hard time making female friendships growing up. I was bullied a lot when I was younger because I was the "chubby kid" and the girls I thought were my friends were AWFUL to me all through school. I made friends here and there (a few of which have stuck around for the long haul) but even through college, most of the female friendships I made ended up being insanely toxic. 

Can you relate?

I talk to so many women who ask me how I've found such strong female friendships and, outside of the few gems that I made in my schooling years, my answer always is COACHING. 

I started health coaching because I knew something in my life needed to change.

My health was in the shitter (I was knee deep in my orthorexia and binge eating days) and I was working 7 part time jobs just to get by and I just couldn't freaking do it anymore. So I grabbed onto one last ditch effort that I was HELLA skeptical of, but I figured that I would hopefully turn my health around at the very least. 

So I dove in. I expected the financial return. I expected to transform my health.

But I never expected the COMMUNITY that I would immediately be welcomed into with open arms -- a community of women that instantly felt like long lost soul sisters.

Women who are like me, but different.

Who teach me so much every single day.

Who accept me for who I am in every aspect.

And who have been there for me ten fold this year while I've been navigating one of the toughest and most overwhelming seasons of my life.

We come from all walks of life (teachers, actors, social workers, nurses, business women, dog mamas, etc) brought together by our dedication to self care via health & fitness and our desire to help others and make an impact in this world. 

And when you get a group of people together who are all showing up for a common goal, and who all bring SO many beautiful and different things to the table, it's pure MAGIC.

If you're feeling lost, chances are it's because you haven't found or created your community yet. One where you feel like you truly belong. And if there's anything I can recommend, FIND YOUR SUPPORT SQUAD. It'll transform your life in ways you never imagined.

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SO WHY IS HAVING A COMMUNITY SO IMPORTANT?

  1. ACCOUNTABILITY -- Have you ever tried going after a goal but lost motivation and never ended up accomplishing it? We live in a society that has taught us to become independent women, and while I'm ALL about throwin' my hands up at them independent women (*cough name that musical reference*) and consider myself quite independent, I spent SO much of my time trying to figure everything out on my own and I felt like I was endlessly hitting my head up against a wall. With my team, we share our goals with one another and hold each other accountable. There's no way I would be where I am today if it weren't for them endlessly empowering me to show up for my dreams. 
  2. SUPPORT -- This one is SO huge. I'm hella blessed to have an incredible support system. Between my husband, my parents and my best friends, I consider myself a pretty lucky girl. But there's something SO magical about going through the shit of it and having women who I've never actually met in person reach out with supportive words, care packages, the works. It's SO incredible and something I am endlessly grateful for every single day. 
  3. IT KEEPS YOU HEALTHY -- Literally. Having a community of people you're plugged into and surrounded by on the daily is SO beneficial to your health. My particular group ups the anti up 'cause we literally are all working on our health & fitness together but any community is HUGE from a mental health perspective. When we are a part of something bigger than ourselves, studies have shown that anxiety, depression and risk of death by heart attacks are significantly reduced. If that's not powerful, I don't know what is. 

And there you have it -- moral of the story? Community is freaking NECESSARY for the soul. Like chicken soup (did ya read those growing up too? haha)

And if you're a goofy go-getter who loves health & fitness, Harry Potter, dogs and laughing so hard you pee a little, then WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?!? The Live Your FYES Life community is home, lady love and we'd LOVE to have you join us. Let's chat!!! 


LIFE UPDATES // 

HEALTH & FITNESS

I completed round 1 of 80 Day Obsession in April and loved it so freaking much that I decided to do it again. I love Beachbody programs so much because they always teach me something new about myself and what I'm capable of.

I've tried SO many fitness programs in the past (Tone It Up, BBG, etc) and I got SO bored and found my results never stuck -- whereas Beachbody programs always leave me feeling re-energized and engaged. And holy hell are these some of the best results of my entire life -- not just physically (because I feel stronger than I ever have), but mentally.

These workouts? They were my therapy. I found out 3 weeks into the program that I was BRCA 1 positive and these workouts got me through the tough days were all I wanted to do was curl up in a ball and cry. I'm SO grateful to this program for literally being my light at the end of the tunnel.

And I'm SO proud of myself and all of my clients who rocked the program alongside of me for COMPLETING THE PROGRAM. If you would have told me a year ago I would have showed up every single day, 6 days a week for 80 days, I would have said you were crazy. But I freaking did it. Was it "perfect"? Well, considering I don't believe in that word, I guess my answer would be NO. But I showed up every single day, rocked the timed nutrition (which my body LOVED) and have never felt more like an athlete in my life. Which coming from a gal who used to be picked last for gym every damn time as a kid, is something that brings tears to my eyes just thinking about.

The lesson? You are capable of ANYTHING you set your mind to. Really and truly.

And if you love structure and are looking to get hella amazing results and feel like a badass athlete, let's chat about you rocking this program alongside our Live Your F*ck Yes Life Wellness Squad!

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MY HORMONE LEVELS

It's been a month and a half since going off the birth control pill and transitioning to the copper IUD and so far, my feelings have more or less stayed that I'm happy with my decision.

My menstrual cycle hasn't come back like it had before, but I am having some kind of menstruation happening -- it's just very different than anything I've experienced before. (Much lighter and longer lasting and a different consistency -- which makes sense as my body is actually going through the process of ovulation now.) Other than that, not much else has shifted other than the shifts in energy throughout the month // let's just say, I get the whole concept of PMS-ing now haha. 

The only downside is that when I went to my one month follow up appointment with my doctor,  I found out that my IUD appears to have moved. Because it's a copper IUD, if it moves any more, I'm going to have to have it re-inserted (which for all of you who have had an IUD inserted you know is NOT a fun process), so that's unfortunate but what's going on!

 

And there you have it! I've got some things to share in the next coming weeks once I've worked through it all and it's official so stay tuned, but that's what the last month of my life has looked like!!

 

What's been going on in YOUR world, lady love?

I wanna hear! Let me know in the comments below.

 

Xo Amanda 

 

The One Decision That Changed My Life (New Orleans Recap!)

A couple of weeks ago, I spent the weekend in New Orleans for our annual coach summit with my amazeballs tribe, Inspire Joy. This was my second time coming to this event and this time around, I really felt like I was HOME. I laughed, I cried, I learned, I was inspired but most of all, I was re-ignited.

So first up -- WHAT THE HELL IS SUMMIT ANYWAYS?

For almost 2 years, I’ve been a health and fitness coach with Team Beachbody, the company that makes the amazing at home programs like 21 Day Fix, PiYo, and Insanity. I run virtual accountability groups for women who want to ditch the diet and find joy in fitness, and I also mentor a team of almost 100 women who have decided to pay their passion of health & fitness forward and earn extra income by becoming coaches themselves.

The reason why I LOVE Beachbody is that it’s mission is focused on transformation from the inside out in every aspect of your life -- your mental/emotional/physical health, your finances, self confidence, mindset and so much more! The more I coach, the more I fall in love with it and am endlessly proud to be a part of such a beautiful, values driven and integrity based company!

I am also obsessed with my team, Inspire Joy. We’re a group of goofy, creative go getters who freaking LOVE quality time together, and we spend sooo much of the year working together virtually that trips like this are seriously AMAZEBALLS.

 

NOLA ADVENTURES

My flight was delayed THREE HOURS flying out of Chicago because of a silly rain storm (CAMAAAN) but luckily some of my team was also delayed so we got to hang together :) Once we finally got to the city, we drove to our Airbnb and got ready for TEAM TACO NIGHT! 

On Thursday, I got up with my gals Jess & Laura and we got our sweat on to our latest program we’re rocking out together and had a relaxing morning hanging out before heading to our first personal development event -- the Power of I Am! This event was amaaazing -- learned so much from incredible leaders & got to hear from Cara Alwill Leyba, the author of The Champagne Diet and Girl Code.

Afterwards, we got beignets at Cafe du Monde ('cause DUH) and later that night, we had our huge opening ceremony at the Superdome! 

Imagine being in a stadium surrounded by 20,000 of the most ambitous, positive, driven, self aware people you know. I get giddy just thinking about it again! IT WAS SERIOUSLY SO EMPOWERING.

Friday, I got up SUPER early for a live workout with the infamous Shaun T (yes he is just attractive in real life and MOTIVATIONAL AF) and holy balls, it was tough. I had had a really emotional night the night before -- continue reading to learn why -- so I neeeeded this sweat sesh so bad. #therapy for real. And it was so empowering to sweat alongside of so many people I admire and look up to. 

Then it was a full day of workshops followed by a super wonderful dinner in the French quarter and a night on the town on Bourbon street ;) We kept it classy but we DEF had fun haha. 

Saturday was our last full day -- filled with more sessions and we closed out the trip  with our huge Celebration at the Superdome. It’s like a giant broadway show meets the Oscars meets Cirque du Soleil. And you get to be there up close and personal. Freaking EPIC.

WHAT I LEARNED:

 

+ IT’S TIME I FREAKING BELIEVE IN MYSELF

Last year, when I came to summit, I had a DREAM. A VISION. A life filled with freedom, travel, purpose, goofy-ness and LIGHT. But it was just that : A dream. Something that felt so freaking far away. 

I mean, I had just started coaching 8 months prior, and was still working 7 different part time jobs, and while I had started to become a more positive and healthy version of myself, I still had a shiz ton of work to do on my self esteem and belief. 

And last year, I came on this trip dreaming of FREEDOM. Of having a tribe of MY gals by my side.

And this year? That dream turned into my reality and it's all because of these incredible women.

Because these gals believed in my dream too. 

They saw what I was doing and said to themselves "I wanna do that too" and they ACTED on it. 

They stepped up to their life to pursue THEIR dreams. To change THEIR lives. And in turn, they've completely transformed mine.

And seeing them there, it hit me like a ton of bricks -- I did what I set out to do. I made my dreams freaking happen. 

It’s so easy in the day to day to get soo wrapped up in what’s not going right or what’s hard that you forget to take in and be grateful for what IS working and this trip put everything in perspective for me :) After all, this journey is FAR from a race -- it's a marathon, and one that I'm IN for the long haul.

 

+ MY TRIBE IS MY FAMILY

Truth? I didn’t have a lot of girlfriends growing up. 

I never did the whole sorority thing, or really got along in big groups of gals because I just couldn’t handle the gossip and I always felt like I just didn’t fit in. 

I became a coach because I wanted to turn my passion for health and fitness into a side hustle that would give me the FREEDOM to follow my dreams and build a life by design.

What I didn’t realize is that I would be getting a FAMILY. These women inspire me every single day to be a better coach, leader, friend and above all, a better version of me. And it’s been the biggest surprise and the greatest gift along this journey.

When we were in NOLA, I found out that my dog Toby had been rushed to the ER. It was our first night, we had just gotten to our opening night celebration and I was feeling SO full of light, gratitude and giddy-ness and in a single text, all of that felt so far away. I had the first anxiety attack and sob fest I’ve had in a long time sitting on the cement floor of the back of the stadium with one of my coaches and in that moment, I realized how LUCKY I was. To have women in my life (some of which I was just meeting in person for the first time) who I didn’t have to say anything to -- they knew EXACTLY what to do and were supportive in the most incredible ways. Every single one of them was THERE for me. 

I believe that community is everything. 

It was the missing link in my life that I never knew I needed. And now that I have it, I can’t ever imagine going a day in my life without it. 

Every day, I am surrounded by other women JUST LIKE ME. 

Women who are dreamers and want to do MORE with their life. To extend BEYOND the status quo. And through it all, I've been able to RISE UP into my full potential and LIVE A LIFE ON PURPOSE. All because of them. 

 

+ HOW MUCH MY LIFE HAS CHANGED IN SUCH A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME

As I sat in our sessions and speakers and team dinners and live workouts, I couldn’t help but think about how different things were for me just one year prior. In just 20 short months, my entire life has shifted.

Through coaching I have been able to:

  • break free of my binge eating disorder .
  • finally stay consistent with my own health and happiness a priority because it's MY JOB to be happy and healthy and fit
  • believe in my enoughness
  • pay off all my credit card debt and contribute to our finances aka PAY DEM BILLLSSSS! .
  •  inspire and empower other women to, bust through their emotional eating habits and rise up to the become the women they KNOW they were put on this earth to be
  • travel to new and amazing places
  • mentor other women just like me to be able to build a side hustle of their own too, and live life to the fullest.

Here is what I believe:

Community is everything. 

Your HEALTH is everything. 

 And if you aren’t waking up every day and saying FUCK YES my life feels AMAZEBALLS, then it’s time to shift course, girlfriend.

It's never too late to say YASSS to your dreams.

 

If there was one thing you could do right now to get a step closer to your dreams,

what would it be?

FOR ME?

IT'S RISE THE F*CK UP.

TIME TO STOP PLAYING SMALL AND START STEPPING INTO THE LEADER I KNOW I WAS PUT ON THIS EARTH TO BE.

Ready or not, world. Here I come.

Xo Amanda

p.s. If you want to learn more about joining our team, please reach out and send me a message. I'd love nothing more than to get to know you and tell you more about what we do!